Wednesday, April 25, 2007

High Drama in Kindergarten

Miss B has had her first devastating friend experience. “T” didn’t want to be her partner in PE today, she wanted to be partners with “R” instead. Miss B felt it necessary to remind “T” that they were best friends, to which “R” countered with "No “T”, you’re MY best friend, right? And “T” replied, “um, yea”. So Miss B is heartbroken, and sure that it is because “R” is so pretty, and has cute clothes, and always wears a necklace and a bracelet. She is convinced that no one thinks she is pretty, and no one likes her or wants to be her friend, and that her friendship with “T” is over. How do I convince a pretty 5 year old that it’s not important to be the prettiest? Or to have the best clothes? And that friendship isn’t based on those things? I told her that “T” was still her friend, and they would probably be partners next time, but what if I’m wrong? I can’t believe this is upsetting me but Miss B was in tears about it and I felt so bad for her! With 3 girls we have at least 18 more years of this…

9 comments:

Shauna said...

Oh that's so sad!!! I have no advice, sorry :( Rachel is going through the teenage version of that where she thinks the guys her age only talk to the girls with big boobies. But Bella is so beautiful she has nothing to worry about in the looks department. Maybe she needs a new bracelet? Oh wait that's not what you're trying to teach her huh?

Stephanie said...

oh no! that is really sad. i would have no idea what to say in that situation. i guess she just needs a little more love right now. mabel is already dreading kindergarten. she thinks nobody will like her and that she won't have any friends. it is so sad when they are so young and so worried about things like that. good luck!

Becky said...

man that stinks! so sad for bella. she is such a sweet tender hearted litle girl! i am so sorry! Tell her to punch "t" lights out..that will make her feel better. :) just kidding. so sad.

melmck said...

Hey! I just came across this very subject in an article in parenting magazine. i'll give you the highlights and can always email you the whole thing if you want it: -let her feel sad, listen and be sypathetic. -help her make new friends, find after-school classes related to her hobbies. -talk about being a good friend, talk about what your child want to give and get in her friendships. That might be for maybe older kids but just thought it could give you some ideas. i would have no idea what to do in that situation. hope that helps!

McDonald Army Brats*** said...

Oh doesn't that break your heart. You should have seen me the first time Derek my oldest got beat up, when he was in kinder, and the person who beat him up was in fifth grade. I seriously had to be restrained. I didn't touch the kid, but I did go and find him and scream and yell at him. He hit Derek so hard in the face that it snapped his glasses in half. Seriously! I waited till Preston got home from work, and Pres went to talk to the kids' dad, and the dad wouldn't open the door.

Ginger John said...

Oh so sad. The story of life. Bella told me that story last night immediately upon me opening the front door. I told her that sometimes people are mean and you just can't do anything about it. I told but it's okay becuase Carson loves you and will always be your Best Friend :) Ugh I so do NOT look forward to the girl drama that is definitely a part of the coming years.....

Ginger John said...

By the way...I think shauna said Boobies...Apparently I am 5 years old still because it made me laugh outloud.

KatieJ said...

Thanks for all the advice! Melanie, I think I subscribe to that magazine, I will have to pull it out and read it! And Shauna, I hate to break it to your sister, but she will need a wonderbra if she wants boys to talk to her before she graduates high school, that's what I did anyways :) I guess it could be worse, it's not like she got beat up!

Ginger John said...

I still wear a wonderbra....doesn't everyone?